Being an Army wife comes with a set of pros and cons. One of the hardest parts of being a military spouse (to me) is being uprooted from your home and transplanted somewhere away from your family. Since marrying Chris in 2009 I have moved from my home of Arizona to Texas, Missouri, and Georgia … progressively getting further and further away from some of the most important people in my life. On the other hand, one of the greatest blessings of being a military spouse is having the opportunity to build an Army family.
Moving is an inherent part of military life and the ability to make friends quickly becomes an important character trait that many mil spouses develop. Creating a new support system, a new network, wherever you PCS is imperative for survival. The friends you make quickly become your people. The people you call on rough days, the shoulders you cry on when your husband deploys, the friends who are always up for a movie, coffee, or lunch date. They become your family away from family … but they are family you get to choose. It’s a win-win situation 😉
Over the last 5 years Chris and I have been blessed in that we have developed friendships that will last a lifetime. At Fort Hood we were incredibly lucky to have a core group of friends where all the husbands and wives got along and liked each other. Amanda, Rachel, Melanie, Elizabeth, Moriah, Laura, Jill, Tara, and Erin were (and are) my people. We all saw our husbands come and go to war, welcomed new babies, and cried as we loaded up UHAULs. We are now scattered in Georgia, Louisiana, Texas, Colorado, Missouri, North Carolina, and Virginia but they will always be my people.
The only good part about all of us being separated now? We get to visit. We saw Amanda and her sweet family on our drive back to Arizona for Christmas. This past weekend we stayed with Jill in Virginia and hung out with Tara. Erin is coming down in a couple of weeks. We have seen both Rachel and Melanie on their travels thru Savannah. It’s pretty awesome being able to go somewhere on vacation and have a friend in the area.
Here in Georgia I have already developed my support network. Heather and Leslie Ann are quickly becoming part of our Army family and I am so grateful to have these amazing women in my life. Whether it be for our weekly long runs, weekly lunch dates, or emergency ice cream deliveries on particularly bad days I know they have my back and I have theres. One day not too far down the road we too will separate but they will always be part of my Army family.
My point in this is that although there are some inherent trials and tribulations with the military lifestyle, there are also incredible opportunities. The opportunity to experience living in various places and the true blessing of getting to meet some extraordinary people is something are some of them. I know that no matter where we go, what we do, Chris, Emmalyne, and I will always have our Army family. No one can actually replace my true family but these awesome people sure do come close.
Are you a part of a community of friends that feels more like family?